Thursday, July 1, 2010

NeuroCollaboration at the Collaborative Practice California annual Gathering

The Newsletter of California's statewide organization, "Collaborative Practice California" (Vol. 2010-2) arrived today with David Fink's summary of the recent "Celebration V," (the annual meeting held this year in San Francisco) as a featured article. The Celebration included a remarkable array of pre-conference institutes and conference plenary speakers,and David's article will give those of you who couldn't attend a vivid picture of who and what you missed.

Tom Lewis and I gave a plenary presentation of 90 minutes, focusing on a few key areas of emerging brain science with material drawn from our 18 hour course in NeuroCollaboration that we've been offering at the Straus Institute (Pepperdine Law School). Here's what David kindly had to say about our presentation:

Our focus on the brain continued Saturday morning with the opening plenary program presented by Collaborative pioneer Pauline Tesler and neuroscientist Dr. Thomas Lewis from UC San Francisco. Dr. Lewis gave a very brief overview of how our brains process information and how that impacts what we perceive through our senses. He highlighted the structure of the brain, and how different parts evolved and developed to handle different functions, and how this impacts emotional reactions and how (and when) we are able (and unable) to process information at a high intellectual level. Pauline Tesler was able to draw the connections between the science described by Dr. Lewis and the assumptions and expectations we make as we help clients through a Collaborative dispute resolution process. In particular, she noted that we often attempt to get “informed consent” to the Collaborative Process from our clients at a time when they are biologically unable to give it. In preparing for this presentation, Dr. Lewis and Ms. Tesler took a program they had previously developed and presented over 18 hours in 2 ½ days and tried to condense a portion of it into our 1 ½ hour program format. Everyone left this program wanting far more on the topic than the presenters could reasonably get through.

Re-examining through the lens of emerging understandings about the brain how we lawyers actually work with our clients (in contrast to how we like to think we are working with them) and how we can mobilize the triune brain to support rather than subvert collaborative conflict resolution is what I'm most engaged in thinking, writing, and teaching about. Co-training with a talented presenter and neuroscientist of Tom's intellectual caliber continues to be a delight and an education.

If you would like us to keep you posted about writings, trainings, and other developments in our work together on the neuroscience of conflict resolution, let me know at teslercollaboration@lawtsf.com

Friday, June 18, 2010

"Taking it To The Next Level" in Pittsburgh

Join me in Pittsburgh for a program that teaches you how to meet your ethical obligations re: informed process choices and at the same time increase client uptake of collaborative practice:

Pittsburgh Training Flyer 6-25-10

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

"GROWING YOUR COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE" workshop July 9-10, Gainsville, Florida

Posted by: "Davis,Robin K" davisr@law.ufl.edu j5rdavis32618

Tue Jun 15, 2010 2:03 pm (PDT)



University of Florida Levin College of Law presents its 2nd annual Collaborative Law Training.

DON'T MISS THIS OPPORTUNITY TO INTERACT WITH
PAULINE TESLER, INTERNATIONALLY ACCLAIMED EXPERT
AND
AUTHOR OF COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE (HarperCollins, 2007)
and COLLABORATIVE LAW (American Bar Association, 2008)

This intermediate training will be held at the Levin College of Law in Gainesville
on July 9-10, 2010.

APPROVED FOR 12.5 CLE'S INCLUDING 2 ETHICS AND
9.50 MARITAL & FAMILY CERTIFICATION (Florida)

Register for the 2010 training at http://www.law.ufl.edu/centers/childlaw/collaborativetraining/

REGISTER NOW

Robin Davis
Legal Skills Professor
Director, Institute for Dispute Resolution
University of Florida
Fredric G. Levin College of Law
P.O. Box 117626
Gainesville, FL 32611-7626
clt@law.ufl.educlt@law.ufl.edu>
Ph. 352-273-0807 Fax 352-392-0414

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Prenuptial Agreements and Collaborative Practice

Any overture by a journalist interested in writing about divorce can be an opportunity to educate the community about the many advantages offered by collaborative practice.

Here, for instance, is a sidebar about prenuptial agreements just published in the "weddings" issue of the glossy lifestyle magazine distributed widely in Marin County (California), where I live and practice.

Collaborative Practice is a conflict resolution modality whose essence is the out-of-court resolution of disputes that otherwise would be handed over to judges or other third-party decision-makers. But the techniques we bring to that conflict resolution work can be useful in family transactional work as well.

We know that for collaborative conflict resolution to work, the parties must share a commitment to maintaining some kind of functional ongoing relationship that is at least as important to them as the immediate divorce-related issues. Certainly the parties to a prenuptial agreement have plenty of commitment to an ongoing relationship which is, one hopes, at least as important to them as the financial matters being addressed in the prenuptial process.

By coincidence, this "sidebar" opportunity arose while I was handling a disturbing prenuptial negotiation that nearly destroyed the ability of the couple to trust one another. The wealthier party, who happened to be female, was represented in the prenuptial negotiations by a large international law firm that handles her substantial investments and business interests. This firm also handles prenuptial agreements for its wealthy clients, but does no other family law work, and for them, a prenuptial agreement is just another wealth protection opportunity.

When I proposed that the firm associate collaborative counsel and that the negotiations be handled face to face with the support of collaborative coaches, the response was, "we don't allow our clients to participate face to face in prenuptial negotiations, because they give away too much."

The wedding will take place later this month, but the terms of the prenup are onerous--the kind of terms that divorce lawyers know will fester and breed resentment over time. The best that I can hope for is that this young couple will recover from this "assault by legal counsel" and that after a few years, the wife will realize the best place for this prenup is in San Francisco's mandatory sidewalk compost bins. At least they both know about collaborative team practice. Perhaps at that point they'll work with a team to renegotiate a more constructive financial foundation for their marriage.

Monday, December 7, 2009

Collaborative Divorce book on Google books

If you--like me--are new to Google books, check out the link above, which will take you to the Google books page for Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life by Pauline H. Tesler and Peggy Thompson (Hardcover - May 23, 2006). Why would you care? Because, although our publisher has not permitted Google to provide page previews of the book, you will find links to many online booksellers who are offering the book at very reasonable prices. You can compare prices; you can go to Amazon.com and look inside the book at sample pages, or purchase the downloadable Kindle version.

Best of all, though: Google provides a listing of all libraries in your area (or any area) that carry the book. So, you can tell clients who can't or don't want to purchase it (even at your discounted bulk rate) where to go to borrow it and read it for free.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Collaborative Divorce Newsblog among top US family law blogs

Attorney.org, a nonprofit website providing information about lawyers and the law to the general public, has chosen this blog for inclusion in its listing of the 102 top U.S. family law blogs. Thank you!

Sunday, November 22, 2009

New York Times Financial Columnist Recommends Collaborative Divorce

The following is excerpted from a longer column,

New York Times, November 20, 2009


"...CHOOSING A LAWYER

I spoke to a number of accountants and financial planners who trained and took an exam to become Certified Divorce Financial Analysts during or after their marriage broke up. What many of them had in common, aside from a fiery conviction that you need an expert from their membership during your breakup, is a general dissatisfaction with the legal process.

And often, it was partly their own fault. “I was clueless,” said Scott D. Martin, who runs DivorceDirection, a financial advisory service in Lake Mary, Fla. “One way to achieve control over the process is by educating yourself about the different ways you can get divorced.” He added that no one told him about collaborative divorce, an increasingly popular process that tries to keep the case out of court.

So when interviewing lawyers, ask what they think of lower-cost mediation options and whether they have been trained to work collaboratively. How often do their cases go to trial and how many are they working on at any given moment? How do they bill?"

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Giving away my Collaborative Divorce book: a virtually guaranteed collaborative practice builder

I received the following email from longtime collaborative divorce lawyer Gretchen Walther, of Albuquerque NM, asking where she could make a low cost bulk purchase of the red Collaborative Divorce book I wrote with psychologist Peggy Thompson. She's using the book exactly as Peggy and I intended:


"They are flying off my shelves like hot cakes!

I believe the book is very helpful in assisting potential new clients to pick CD. On our intake sheet we have a question, “Are you interested in Collaborative Divorce?” A majority of them say “yes” at the intake level, because an increasing amount of my referrals are coming because people want CD. The book helps them understand it at a deeper level. Even for people who don’t pick collaborative, or are just thinking about it, I am adamant that they read the book because it provides a comprehensive explanation of how the emotional divorce has a profound impact on the legal divorce. People still just don’t get that – and to me, helping divorcing parties understand this is the key to being an effective divorce attorney.

It is also a useful tool as I am working with the clients through the collaborative process. I will often refer back to certain sections of the book to reminder about various aspects of the divorce process.

When I see the answer is “no” to the question on our intake sheet, I tend to think “Hmmmm, maybe there is domestic violence or personality disorders etc – where the people are worried about collaborative.” I am then often surprised to find out that once I explain the concept to them, they really like collaborative divorce and the only reason they said “no” at the intake level is because they did not know what it was. The book is particularly helpful to these people.

I have a pretty high ratio of potential clients to retained clients. I think it is because of the individual attention and compassion I show towards them. I provide your book to a majority of the potential clients that meet with me. I think they appreciate the extra effort I make to provide them with information about collaborative divorce.

There has been many a first four way meeting where I see the red collaborative book that I provided to my client in the hands of the other spouse. "

_____________________________________________________________________________


Gretchen M. Walther
Board Certified Family Law Specialist

Thursday, July 23, 2009

The "Hal and Elaine" Training DVD

I've received a stream of inquiries about purchase of the "Hal and Elaine" training DVD, produced and directed by me, which was released for sale in October 2008.

It shows, in 21 short chapters, every phase of an interdisciplinary collaborative professional team's work with a couple who at first seem fairly typical collaborative clients, but who gradually present greater and greater challenges. The DVD comes with a complete study guide and trainer's manual, on CD-ROM, written by me and geared to the specific chapters of the DVD.

Look back in this blog for posts dated October 19, and October 26, 2008, for a short preview of the "Hal and Elaine" training DVD, and an order form.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Great Sale Prices on My Books

Peggy Thompson and I wrote our book, Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on With Your Life, for general readers and referral sources, with the hope that it would become available cheaply enough so that collaborative practitioners could buy the book in bulk and give copies to new and prospective clients as an educational tool. That's now been made possible on a book selling website associated with E-Bay, www.half.com, which is selling the paperback edition for under seven dollars.

Our experience is that when divorcing clients read our book, they nearly always want a collaborative divorce, and they give the book to their spouses, who often will elect it themselves. Now, for less than seven dollars each, you can greatly boost the number of prospective clients who want you to represent them collaboratively.

The same bookseller is offering the second edition of my book for lawyers, Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce Without Litigation (A.B.A., 2008) for under $90, substantially less than the sticker price, and far less than they are charging for the now-outdated first edition.




Collaborative Divorce: The
Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your
Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on With Your Life
: Pauline H. Tesler, Peggy Thompson
Paperback, 2007

$6.99(Save 56%)

















Monday, June 22, 2009

"Neurocollaboration" Course a Hit at Straus Institute (Pepperdine Law School) Summer Skills Program

Tom Lewis, M.D. and I presented a three-day course in the neuroscience of collaborative conflict resolution earlier this month in Malibu at the Straus Institute Summer Skills Program, to a group of students that was equally balanced between collaborative family lawyers, and students who had no direct involvement at all in family conflict resolution.

The course was very well received by our students, who at times were so engrossed in the intense debates sparked by the material that they--and we--forgot to take scheduled breaks. Several told us it was the most fascinating continuing education course they'd ever taken. There was buzz about the Neurocollaboration course in the hallways and during the breaks. Tom and I were gratified by the positive response from not only students in our own course, but students and faculty involved in other courses running at the same time as ours.

Many people approached Tom and me to ask whether the course would be offered again in October at the fall session of the skills program in Woodstock, Vermont.

The answer is, "yes." For more information, or to enroll, go to this link:

http://law.pepperdine.edu/straus/training_and_conferences/fallpsp2009/advanced_collaborative_family_law.html

Collaborative Divorce to be included in Law School Clinical Program

U.Va. Law School To Offer Family Alternative Dispute Resolution Clinic


Starting this fall, the University of Virginia School of Law will offer a clinic designed to help low-income families resolve legal issues through mediation or other options outside of a courtroom.The yearlong Family Alternative Dispute Resolution Clinic will focus primarily on custody, divorce, visitation and support issues.

The clinic will partner with the Mediation Center of Charlottesville, which takes court-referred cases from the juvenile, domestic relations and circuit courts.Students in the clinic will co-mediate with the Mediation Center’s experienced and certified family mediators, he said.
The clinic will also work with the Central Virginia Legal Aid Society to accept referrals for collaborative law cases, in which clients retain their own lawyer, but in a less-adversarial setting than a typical family law case adjudicated in court. Clinic instructor Kimberly Emery, assistant dean for pro bono and public interest, recently designed training for local family law attorneys so they could assist in such cases free of charge.

Family Law In addition to a seminar in the fall that trains students to handle such cases, up to eight students selected for the clinic will receive 20 hours of mediation skills training through a program approved by the Supreme Court of Virginia, plus six hours of academic credit.

“All year long, students are going to be given opportunities to observe mediations and collaborative practice cases, and to actually participate in those,” Balnave said.“Even for students who are not planning to go on to family law, they’ve learned the skills,” Emery added. “They’ve also seen how one type of alternative dispute resolution may be better than another.”Balnave said by the end of the course students will be able to compare options for families in litigation, collaborative law and mediation settings.

“We’re going to have people who really want to have an amicable dissolution of the relationship and that’s going to be really satisfying for our students to work on — Family Law to help people through that difficult time,” he said.

With the new clinic, the Law School now offers 19 clinical courses. The family law clinic began last fall as a pro bono pilot project funded by a grant from the Jessie Ball duPont Fund.“The family law pro bono cases are the most difficult to place,” Emery said. “The need for family law representation is extreme.”

Thursday, June 4, 2009

Collaborative Divorce Practice in Israel

There are now at least 80 trained collaborative divorce professionals in Israel, who attended one of the two introductory three-day trainings presented last month by me and Yuval Berger in Tel Aviv.

The events were co-sponsored by the United States Embassy, The Israeli Bar Association, and the Israeli Ministry of Justice, and were preceded by introductory evening presentations in Haifa and Tel Aviv attended by perhaps 200 lawyers, mediators, therapists, and social workers.

The courses were both oversubscribed, and there is a waiting list for another round of basic trainings. Participants left these events obviously energized and ready to do the work of building a uniquely Israeli collaborative practice movement.

They face some unique challenges--for example, the existence of two parallel, separate systems for granting divorces--one civil, and the other religious--which apply entirely different substantive and procedural law. But like collaborative lawyers everywhere, our colleagues in Israel have begun the work of figuring out solutions.

"Neurocollaboration" course starts next week!

Dear Friends and Colleagues,

Again this year I’ve been invited to teach in the Straus Institute Dispute Resolution Skills Training Program in Malibu, CA (June) and Woodstock, VT (October). As many of you know, the course I’m offering this year is called “Neurocollaboration.” My co-trainer will be Tom Lewis, M.D., a psychiatrist and clinical faculty member at the University of California, San Francisco School of Medicine, who has a special interest in the evolutionary biology and neurochemistry of human emotion and behavior.


Tom and I are putting the finishing touches on an 18-hour intensive course (two and a half days) that will teach collaborative lawyers to understand how the human brain actually operates with respect to social and “ultra-social” emotions and behaviors during family breakdown and restructuring. Tom brings to this course a profound understanding of the neuroscience of human behavior and a dynamic, highly engaging teaching style. You may have read an elegant book for general readers that he and two psychiatrist colleagues wrote several years ago about the meaning and purpose of love in the evolution of the human species, called A General Theory of Love. Tom has previously taught much of the material which we are integrating into this Neurocollaboration course in a program he presented at Google University, the educational arm of Google operated on their campus here in the Bay Area, as well as to University of California physicians and medical students, for the very practical purpose of helping participants ground their work with patients, clients, and customers in a more accurate paradigm for how and why the human brain causes people to behave as they do.

For this Straus Institute course, Tom and I are organizing this emerging understanding of how our brains actually function, into the four-part “paradigm shift” matrix that you will be familiar with if you have ever attended one of my introductory two day collaborative trainings, or have read my A.B.A. book, Collaborative Law: Who Am I? Who Is My Client? What Is The Task? How Do I Do the Task?

Participants in this course can expect to learn not only new understandings of why we and our clients behave as we do during conflict and conflict resolution, but also ways of implementing these perspectives from the neurosciences to make our collaborative conflict resolution work more effective and satisfying to ourselves and our clients. The course will include multimedia presentations and interactive exercises and discussions, and given what I have seen of Tom’s previous teaching on related subjects, I expect the Neurocollaboration course to be not only challenging and practical, but also quite entertaining.

This course will provide 18 hours of California Mandatory Continuing Legal Education credit for lawyers; many states recognize for their own CLE purposes courses that are accredited by the State Bar of Calfornia. California State Bar Certified Family Law Specialists can earn 18 CFLS credits for attendance at this course, all of which qualify in the category of “psychological and counseling aspects of family law.” I would expect that collaborative coaches and child specialists might individually be able to obtain continuing education credits from their own professional associations; we can provide a course syllabus and proof of attendance.

While the course will focus specifically on applying understandings from the neurosciences in collaborative family law practice, it would be of potential interest to any conflict resolution professional working in the area of divorce. To keep the courses in this program highly interactive and “hands-on,” enrollment is strictly limited by the Straus Institute to a maximum of 25 to 30 participants, and to the extent possible, preference will be given to collaborative practitioners if the course is oversubscribed.

I’d be delighted to see this first-ever Neurocollaboration course fully booked by collaborative practitioners, as I am convinced this is the new frontier for taking our collaborative conflict resolution work to the next level. It would be great to see friends and colleagues in attendance. There are still some spaces available for the Malibu course, which takes place June 11-13. The Pepperdine University Law School campus, where the Straus Institute is located, is set in perhaps the most beautiful location of any law school in North America, on a coastal hillside overlooking the beaches of Malibu. Malibu is only about a 45 minute drive north along the Pacific Coast Highway from Los Angeles International Airport. Brad Pitt sightings at local restaurants have been reported.

For further information, or to enroll, you can contact Straus Institute administrator Lori Rushford, or look at course information and enrollment forms online [click on the title of this post, above, or use the url shown below]:

Lori Rushford

Professional Education Program Administrator

Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution

Pepperdine School of Law

24255 Pacific Coast Highway

Malibu, CA 90263

lori.rushford@pepperdine.edu

((310) 506-6342

Fax: (310) 506-4437

http://law.pepperdine.edu/straus/training_and_conferences/summer2009/neuro_collaboration.html

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Collaborative Practice Comes to Israel

The first set of trainings in interdisciplinary team collaborative practice will take place in Tel Aviv, Israel in mid-May, 2009. Co-sponsored by the Israeli Ministry of Justice and the Israeli Bar Association, with additional funding from the U.S. State Department, this training is expected to draw as many as 75 participants (lawyers and mental health professionals).

There will be two short educational workshops prior to the trainings, for interested people working in the field of divorce conflict resolution, including lawyers, judges, mediators, and mental health professionals, the first in Tel Aviv on May 7, and the second in Haifa on May 10.

The Israeli Bar Association will host two three day team trainings, which are to take place on May 13-15, and May 17-19. I will be presenting these trainings with my colleague from Vancouver, B.C., psychologist Yuval Berger. Yuval gave an introductory talk to Israeli lawyers some months ago and stirred up initial interest in collaborative practice. In addition, Haifa lawyer Michal Kaempfer has started the first Israeli collaborative practice group after attending two events in Ireland in May, 2008---the Cork Collaborative Conference, followed by a two-day training of mine in Dublin sponsored by the Legal Aid Board of Ireland. We are expecting that collaborative practice will be off to a running start in Israel after these two trainings produce a cadre of trained collaborative professionals ready to work with clients.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Mediators and Collaborative Lawyers Working Together

ABA Book Briefs Blog
How Collaborative Lawyers Can Work with Mediators [Book Excerpt]

During the course of a collaborative law case, all participants need to roll up their sleeves and share information, clarify and communicate goals and priorities, brainstorm possible resolutions, devise and evaluate proposals, and—finally—reach agreements. Sometimes it is necessary for the collaborative lawyer to work with a mediator. Here are some tips for how they can work together.

Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce without Litigation, Second Edition

Excerpted from Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce without Litigation, Second Edition
By Pauline H. Tesler

Table of Contents PDF | Introduction PDF | Learn more about the book »

Collaborative lawyers make great consulting lawyers in cases where mediation is the clients' choice of primary conflict-resolution mode. The collaborative participation agreement is modified to reflect this role change, and the collaborative lawyers remain barred from participating in litigation.

Collaborative lawyers can strengthen and enrich the mediation process itself. In mediations where the clients' consulting lawyers are in the room participating, mediators who develop good working relationships with collaborative lawyers can enjoy the advantages of having two other professionals in the room who know about interest-based conflict resolution, whose legal advice will be built into the negotiation process, and who are skilled at out-of-the-box problem solving.

If a collaborative case runs into problems, a "meta-mediator" can help everyone get through the challenging phase. Sometimes a "perfect storm" of challenging clients and challenging issues can stall a collaborative negotiation. If a mediator who understands the collaborative process is brought in to hold responsibility for managing the negotiating session, the lawyers can be free to work more intensively with their respective clients. And, a third conflict-resolution professional in the room can sometimes help undo logjams in creative problem solving.

Where new mates or extended family are undermining the collaborative process behind the scenes, a mediator can help return the process to integrity and transparency. A mediator can work with the outside family members and help them or the client bring any legitimate interest involving them to the collaborative table for constructive discussion.

If the collaborative lawyers run into difficulties with one another, a mediator can help. A mediator who understands the collaborative process can be an effective facilitator or mentor who can help the two professionals communicate about what is going wrong, and help them get back into a more helpful mode with the clients.

[ABA Blog excerpt created by Kurt Harzke] |

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Neuro-Collaboration at Pepperdine


Neuro-Collaboration: How New Perspectives from the Neurosciences Can Enhance Your Collaborative Conflict Resolution Skills


Faculty: Pauline H. Tesler, M.A., J.D., and Thomas Lewis, M.D.

Approved for 18 hours of California CFLS (Certified Family Law Specialist) credit, including 18 credit hours for psychological and counseling aspects of family law

Intended for both beginning and experienced collaborative lawyers, this course integrates cutting-edge neuroscientific models of human emotion and behavior with the practical realities of interdisciplinary team collaborative divorce practice. We will describe, illustrate and demonstrate how a fuller understanding of the neurobiological forces that influence us and our clients can help them and their professional team participate more effectively in the collaborative process.

The course will provide participants with a detailed and practical understanding of how grief, trauma, and other strong emotional processes associated with the loss of the primary intimate pair bond can impair our clients' ability to participate effectively in conflict resolution. We will also examine how a number of powerful pro-social emotional mechanisms, including trust, empathy, and the drive toward fairness can, if properly recruited, enhance the likelihood of arriving at a resolution that is durable and fully satisfying to the parties.

The focus is on taking theoretical and research-related understandings from neurobiology, neuroeconomics, social psychology, and neuroethics, and applying them to improve the quality and effectiveness of our work as collaborative conflict resolution professionals.

What you will learn:

· The degree to which our internalized collaborative conflict resolution model is based on an inaccurate understanding of how human beings actually make decisions, and how that misperception can contribute to sub-optimal process management in collaborative cases.

· The impact of grief and loss on the physical and mental health of members of divorcing families, and how these processes affect client functionality in the setting of collaborative conflict resolution.

· How collaborative professionals can build better empathic skills for enhanced awareness of the emotional states of our clients (and colleagues), while avoiding being flooded by the emotions of others, and maintaining the balance required for effective conflict resolution work.

· The inherent power dynamics of the lawyer-client relationship, even in collaborative practice, and how this reality influences client choices in ways not readily apparent to either lawyer or client.

· How unnoticed power dynamics on the collaborative divorce professional team can decrease positive functionality of the collaborative conflict resolution system, and how to make such systems more functional.

· How the representation of language and metaphor in the brain influences client behavior, and how careful attention to the metaphorical processes at play can help us manage conflict and facilitate resolution.

· What we can learn from neuroeconomics about "getting to the deal" how apparently rational decisions are influenced by emotion, "priming" and other non-rational factors, and how we can use that reality to support constructive conflict resolution.

Pauline Tesler is a leading pioneer in the international collaborative law movement. She cofounded the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and was its first president. She is also cofounder and first coeditor of The Collaborative Review. Her extensive writings include Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce Without Litigation, 2nd ed. (ABA 2008) and Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life (HarperCollins, 2006). Recipient of the first ABA Lawyer as Problem Solver award in 2002, Ms. Tesler has trained thousands of lawyers and other professionals in effective collaborative practice, in North America, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand, and is about to offer initial trainings in Israel.

Thomas Lewis is a physician, writer, and an expert on the intersection between neuroscience and human experience. An assistant clinical professor at the University of California, San Francisco, School of Medicine and professor at the Fromm Institute at the University of San Francisco, Dr. Lewis has written and lectured extensively on the neuroscience of human relationships, emotion, and empathy, for audiences ranging from the American Academy for the Advancement of Science to Google University. He is one of the authors of A General Theory of Love (Random House, 2000), described by the Washington Post as "a rare example of the fusing of scientific rigor with literary eloquence." Dr. Lewis has consulted with major motion picture productions and the California Shakespeare Festival on the science of emotion and its role in the dramatic arts. His most recent course at the University of San Francisco has explored the neural basis of human morality.

http://law.pepperdine.edu/straus/training_and_conferences/summer2009/neuro_collaboration.html



Video Interviews with Collaborative Law Pioneers

At Cutting Edge Law.com, you'll find well-produced interviews with many of the early and current leaders in the collaborative law movement and other conflict resolution and peacemaking practices. The blog has a wealth of other resources about conflict resolution, too.

Kim Wright interviewed me in October, 2008. You can find links to the edited video (in five segments of about ten minutes each--YouTube size) at:

http://cuttingedgelaw.com/video/pauline-tesler-hot-topics-collaborative-practice

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

An open letter to my "down under" friends and colleagues

The chance to present a plenary speech at the forthcoming “Collaborating Down Under” conference in Sydney was irresistible to me and I am greatly looking forward to it. The Australian collaborative practice community is showing the rest of the world how to do it in terms of mobilizing support for our work at the highest level of government, and I’m hoping to bring home ideas about how we might be able to get Obama Administration leaders on board in a similar way back here in the U.S.A.

I’m also delighted that I’m going to be able to work directly with many of you in a workshop format on the Monday after the Sydney conference ends. That workshop isn’t going to be a highly structured “I talk, you listen” kind of event. It’s meant for people who are serious about taking their understandings and skills to higher and more nuanced levels. This event aims to meet each participant at his/her personal growth point, and to move to the next level of competency and sophistication. It will include presentation of some new ideas that I’ve been working with in intermediate and advanced trainings, and also plenty of time for discussion and spontaneous roleplays of problems from participants’ own cases and practices.

Your colleagues have put together a great conference program. It’s sometimes difficult to be a prophet in one’s own land–--and we all make the mistake sometimes of thinking that what’s taking place close to home is nothing special. In this case, you’d be making a mistake if thoughts like that have kept you from signing up for the “Collaborating Down Under” conference.

Take a look at how many speakers and workshop presenters are flying over to Sydney from the U.S. and Europe, and ask yourself why. It surely isn’t the money....all of us will be taking a big financial hit that we will be paying for out of our own pockets. We’re doing it because we all have the sense that this could be one of those events that we may look back upon as transformative, and we want to be part of it.

The big thing that is happening in the international collaborative world is that our movement has made the leap from aspiration to reality. We are at this point truly an international movement, and IACP is building new organizational structures to help link us as a 21st century global community. I believe this conference, like the European conference held in Ireland last May, may be looked back upon as one of the important building blocks in that process. For Australia’s collaborative community to be effective in shaping this formative global community in ways that serve the needs of Australia and New Zealand, it’s vital that you all show up, and make this a conversation that includes all important stakeholders.

I’ve had the privilege of working with many of you in training events in the U.S., Sydney and Brisbane (and in workshops in Aukland). I’ve seen an amazing growth curve over the time since I first began talking with collaborative practitioners from down under. You are bridging gaps, you are moving from old market share ways of looking at collaborative practice communities to a 21st century understanding of how to build a movement that can strengthen the quality of practice, educate the public about why collaborative practice matters, and increase the demand for collaborative services in a way that can benefit everyone.

The Sydney conference can be a place where that conversation takes wings. I’ve attended many collaborative conferences over the years. Each has been interesting and I learn at all of them, but only a small handful have been truly memorable, have changed my way of thinking about the world of collaborative practice. With enough engagement from the Australian collaborative community, I envision that this could be such an event. However, as they say in Las Vegas, “you must be present to win.”

Looking forward to seeing you all in Sydney—

Sunday, March 1, 2009

See you in Sydney?

The "Collaborating Down Under" conference in Sydney begins March 26th. I'm excited to be presenting a plenary speech to the conference, which will focus on how the collaborative community functions as a learning and feedback system.

Conference organizers have added a full-day training workshop on Monday, March 30th--at which I'll be able to work closely with collaborative professionals on specific issues in their own work with clients. This is one of my favorite kinds of training event. Rather than a structured agenda, we will work with problems that participants are experiencing in their own cases. This means that we'll be working at the edge of each participant's personal growth curve, taking it to the next level.

If you are debating whether or not to come to the Sydney conference....take a look at the conference website. Sydney is one of the great cities of the world; Australia's collaborative practice community is vibrant and growing; they have succeeded in engaging the interest and support of government officials at the highest levels. And--not least-- the U.S. dollar is fairly strong against the Australian dollar right now, and Qantas is offering sale prices on round trip airfare to Sydney.

Come on down.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Collaborating Down Under

Pauline H. Tesler

Pauline H. Tesler



[from the conference website for the forthcoming international collaborative conference in Sydney, Australia, March 23-29, 2009, where I will present a plenary speech at the luncheon on Friday, March 27th]

Collaborating DownUnder 2009

Collaborative Professionals (NSW) Inc (CPNSW) takes great pleasure in hosting the first collaborative practice conference in the southern hemisphere.


Sydney – 26 to 29 March 2009
VENUE – Westin Sydney Hotel,
1 Martin Place Sydney NSW

To be opened by the Chief Justice,
Family Court of Australia,
The Honourable Diana Bryant

Special guest speaker,
Australian Attorney General,
The Honourable Robert McClelland MP


Conference speaker's bio:

Pauline H. Tesler is a specialist in family law, certified by the State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization since 1984. She has been peer-rated "A-V" by Martindale-Hubbell since the early 1980's and was elected a fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers in 1984. Educated at Harvard College, the Victoria University of Manchester (England), and the University of Wisconsin Law School, Pauline began her legal career with a vigorous litigation and appellate practice, including test-case and major impact litigation in the California and United States Supreme Courts. After twenty years of court-based dispute resolution, in the early 1990's she became a pioneer in developing and extending the practice of Collaborative Law and interdisciplinary team Collaborative Practice worldwide. Since 1998 she has limited her practice with clients to collaborative representation and consultation.

Pauline co-founded the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and was its first President, and was founding co-editor of The Collaborative Review, whose "Dear Collaborator" column she wrote for many years. She chaired the Standards Committee that drafted the first international standards for Collaborative Practice, and chaired the first IACP Ethics Task Force. Her critically-acclaimed practice manual, Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce Without Litigation (published by the American Bar Association in 2002, revised and expanded second edition 2008) was the first book-length treatise for collaborative lawyers. She co-authored (with psychologist Peggy Thompson) Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move On With Your Life (HarperCollins, 2006), intended for general readers and as a practice development tool for collaborative lawyers. Pauline has recently produced, directed, and made available for sale to trainers and practice groups a full-length DVD (The "Hal and Elaine Case") demonstrating in 21 chapters an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce team at work in a complex case.

Pauline has introduced many thousands of lawyers and other professionals to collaborative practice in North America, Europe, Australia and New Zealand. She provides interdisciplinary and lawyer-only trainings and practice development workshops at all levels, and also provides mentoring, coaching, and case consultation to professionals whose cases are in difficulty. She and Stu Webb jointly received the first "Lawyer as Problem Solver" award from the American Bar Association in 2002. More information about her work and forthcoming events can be found on her blog, www.collaborativedivorcenews.com, and at her website, www.teslercollaboration.com.

Email teslercollaboration@lawtsf.com
Phone (415)383-5600

Conference website: http://www.collaboratingdownunder.com

Friday, December 26, 2008

Online purchase of second edition of ABA book, Collaborative Law through Lawyers' Weekly Books

Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce Without Litigation
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By Pauline H. Tesler

New, greatly expanded Second Edition!

This unique book explains this emerging dispute resolution model of collaborative law that is helping family lawyers bring their clients through the divorce passage with integrity and satisfaction. Noted authority Pauline H. Tesler explains the goals of collaborative law and the various stages of a collaborative representation, as well as the special ethical considerations for collaborative lawyers, how to develop and market a collaborative law practice, identifying and planning for the key moments in a collaborative representation, and a complete array of published and online resources for both lawyers and clients.

An accompanying diskette includes the book's many sample forms, as well as a user-friendly question-and-answer handbook designed to orient clients to the collaborative process, which may be reproduced for client use.

One volume, softbound, 369 pages plus CD-Rom. Published in 2008.

Click here to view the table of contents.

Thursday, December 11, 2008

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Saturday, December 6, 2008

Come to a public talk about Collaborative Divorce, in Annapolis, MD


Pauline Tesler, Pioneer in Collaborative Law Movement, Speaks on Collaborative Law and Consensus Building, Dec. 16

December 5, 2008
Contact: University Relations
Phone: 410.837.5739

Pauline H. Tesler, co-founder of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals and author of the critically-acclaimed practice manual, Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce without Litigation, will discuss collaborative law and its potential to resolve deep conflict and foster consensus in a special event sponsored by the Maryland Mediation and Conflict Resolution Office and the University of Baltimore's master's degree program in Negotiations and Conflict Management on Tuesday, Dec. 16 at 7 p.m. in the Judicial Education and Conference Center, 2011 D Commerce Park Drive in Annapolis. The event is free and open to the public.

Tesler's practice manual was the first book-length treatise for collaborative lawyers. Its substantially revised second edition, now available, joins her growing family of publications on collaborative law, including Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life, which is intended for general readers and as a practice development tool for collaborative lawyers.

Tesler, who served as the first president of the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals, has introduced thousands of lawyers and other professionals to collaborative practice in North America, Europe, Australia and New Zealand. She provides interdisciplinary trainings and practice development workshops at all levels, and also conducts mentoring, coaching and case consultation to professionals experiencing difficulties in their casework. She was a co-recipient of the inaugural "Lawyer as Problem Solver" award from the American Bar Association in 2002. More information about her trainings and writings can be found on her blog, www.collaborativedivorcenews.com, and on her Web site, www.teslercollaboration.com.

Members of the Maryland Program for Mediator Excellence can receive activity credit for attending this event.

Tesler's appearance is supported by the following additional organizations: the Alternative Dispute Resolution Office; the District Court of Maryland; the Center for Dispute Resolution at the University of Maryland School of Law; the Community Conferencing Center; Community Mediation Maryland; the Legal Studies Institute at Anne Arundel Community College; the Maryland Commission on Human Relations the Maryland Council on Dispute Resolution; the Maryland State Bar Association's ADR Section; Mount Saint Mary's University; the Peace Studies Program at Goucher College; the Department of Conflict Analysis and Dispute Resolution at Salisbury University; the Maryland Chapter of the Association of Conflict Resolution; and the Mediation and Conflict Resolution Center at Howard Community College.

For more information about this event, call 410.837.4060.

The University of Baltimore is a member of the University System of Maryland and comprises the School of Law, the Yale Gordon College of Liberal Arts and the Merrick School of Business.

Monday, November 24, 2008

Collaborative Divorce for Madonna?

From the Times of London,
October 22, 2008

Fast Track Divorce for Madonna?

Madonna and Guy Ritchie could be the first high-profile couple to divorce collaborative-style.

The new, fast-track and non-confrontational way of reaching arrangements over money and children on divorce has just won senior judicial backing - in the week that the couple's split became public knowledge.

Collaborative law does not sound buzzy. But it is the in-method of reaching divorce agreements, with the benefits of speed, huge cost savings and, above all, minimum acrimony.

Last week a couple of hundred lawyers gathered to celebrate the fifth year since American-style collaborative law was introduced in the UK. In 2003, four London lawyers were among a handful who had qualified in the new method; now there are more than 1,250 and more than 300 in London. This year has also seen the appointment of London's first "collaborative" silk: Tim Amos, QC.

What is it? It aims to help couples reach agreement out of court, avoiding the risk of the public mud-slinging and battles epitomised in the split between Sir Paul McCartney and Heather Mills.
Settlements are reached in four-way, face-to-face talks between the parties and their lawyers. There is an incentive to agree: if the talks fail, then new lawyers have to be instructed for court proceedings - at extra cost.

The couple draws up a consent order which is then agreed by the court. This process used to take three to four months. But last week , Mr Justice Coleridge, a senior family judge, announced a fast-track procedure whereby such orders could now be approved within a couple of days.

He said that If every aspect of the case had been agreed, and the hearing before a judge for approving the order would not take longer than ten minutes, all that was needed was a day's notice to the court and a chance for the judge to read the papers overnight.

The fast-track initiative, which has the backing of Sir Mark Potter, president of the Family Division, comes about after an un-named couple had asked for urgent approval of their settlement because one was about to move to the United States with the children.

At first, Mr Justice Coleridge said that he thought the application rather cheeky. But he added: "However, I am, as is well-known, a pussycat, and agreed to hear the application for approval as the first in the list on the following day."

The key benefits of the new "good divorce" method are that it is non-adversarial; solutions can be tailormade and flexible; clients have control of the pace; experts (accountants, financial advisers, therapists or counsellors) can be brought in and work with the couples; and privacy is preserved.

He did sound one note of caution, however. Lawyers needed to be "acutely sensitive" to the process failing so that "costs are not run up first by one process and then, after the trial has hit the buffers, by the old-fashioned scheme".

Isobel Robson, partner and head of family at Andrew Jackson, the Yorkshire law firm, said there was a big take-up in the new method.

"I believe that collaborative law is the most exciting development in family law in my 24 years of practice. Clients love it; they regard the process as direct, clear and amicable whilst avoiding the expenses and latent aggression of the court process."

Cost savings were considerable too, she said. "I have dealt with collaborative cases with assets in the millions and costs of under £10,000 - perhaps only 10 per cent or less of the costs for contest cases with the same assets."

The take-up among lawyers is still patchy, however, with some hugely successful pockets in the regions where lawyers have embraced the new method, but a slower take-up in other areas, including London.

"The clients embrace the concept that the whole focus of their case is on settling - rather than fighting," she said.

Suzanne Kingston, head of family at Dawsons LLP, said that for Madonna and Guy Ritchie, the privacy would be a big incentive. The settlement could be reached "in one of the offices of the solicitors rather than in court".

So it's down to Fiona Shackleton (for Madonna) and (Lady) Helen Ward, for Ritchie. The couple are said to want a deal by Christmas. Using this route, they could well do it.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Short Preview of Hal and Elaine DVD

Click below to watch a four minute preview of the Hal and Elaine case, a demonstration in 21 short chapters of an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce team working with a couple whose divorce-related challenges become increasingly difficult. The unique power and resources of the professional team become clear as the case proceeds. The DVD is available for purchase by trainers and practice groups.


Sunday, October 19, 2008

Order the new Hal and Elaine DVD

Announcing release of a new video demonstrating a collaborative divorce team at work. The Hal and Elaine Case, a DVD in 21 short chapters, shows the steps and stages of an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce team's work with Hal and Elaine, a couple going through an increasingly difficult divorce.

Watch an extremely capable and experienced team of collaborative lawyers, mental health professionals, and financial consultant address predictable and unexpected challenges in spontaneous roleplays that focus on professional teamwork in action. The team members include: Pauline Tesler, David Fink, Lisa Schneider, Randy Cheek, Peggy Thompson, Ann Jacobson Nunno, Jeffrey Kahn, and Eve Poling.

The video is intended to support and enrich collaborative trainings and practice group sessions and is not a self-contained training. It comes with a discussion guide and notes for trainers.


Order “The Hal And Elaine” Dvd before October 31, 2008 at the
pre-release discounted price of $455.

Print out the order form below and mail or email to the address below.

Orders received after October 31, 2008 : $495 (Plus $ 7.95 shipping & handling).
Orders shipped to AK, HI, OR, PR: $14 shipping & handling.
All other destinations: Please inquire.


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Pauline H. Tesler
The Collaborative Legal Practice Institute
163 Miller Avenue Mill Valley, California 94941

teslercollaboration@lawtsf.com
www.collaborativedivorcenews.com
www.teslercollaboration.com

Saturday, October 18, 2008

The Hal and Elaine Case--A Collaborative Team Divorce




This weekend at the IACP Forum in New Orleans I distributed preview CD's announcing release of a new DVD, The Hal and Elaine Case. The preview will be available shortly here and at my website.


The DVD that is previewed on the CD will be shipped to purchasers in mid to late November. It is intended for use by trainers and practice groups. It shows roleplays of a full interdisciplinary collaborative divorce team working collegially with Hal and Elaine to help them through a challenging divorce process.

The DVD has 21 chapters, each five to ten minutes in length, focusing on the coordinated professional help that can be provided only by a team. The DVD is not a free-standing training. It's meant to be used in conjunction with trainings and practice group workshops, to show the power of the team in action.

The preview CD, if you have one, can be viewed on your computer, using quicktime. It's short: under five minutes.

If you encounter difficulties with viewing the CD, you are probably attempting to watch it directly from your cd drive. Some computers cannot do that without problems such as jumpy video or temporary freezing of the images. The solution is easy: download the CD to your hard drive and view it from there, not from your disc drive.


Orders for the DVD received before the end of October qualify for a discounted price: $455.00 plus shipping and handling. Beginning November 1, the regular price is $495.00 plus shipping and handling.

The order form is pasted above. You can also request an order form from me at:

teslercollaboration@lawtsf.com


I hope you find the Hal and Elaine case useful in your practice groups, and in trainings.

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

A moving personal story from a New Jersey collaborative lawyer


A Missed Opportunity

I have noted before that my parents divorced just six years ago. What I did not mention was that shortly after Mom and Pop’s traditional divorce, she was clinically diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. During the divorce, I had sensed something was wrong with Mom and so did Pop, but Mom had gone to an attorney and started the divorce process premised upon her belief that that he was unfaithful, stealing from her, etc. There was nothing we could do, because their divorce was in the “system” and pretty much out of control. The final fees associated with their divorce action exceeded $40,000.00. There were no motions or trial expenses added to the final sum for this uncontested divorce.

Unfortunately, our legal system is not well equipped to deal with parties suffering from mental health issues. So long as the wife or husband can pass himself or herself off as sane, the divorce judgment goes through. Really, all families can hope is that an attorney will recognize that their client is not mentally fit to understand the terms of a property settlement agreement or the legal process, and seek a guardianship for the client. We attorneys, however, are not trained in mental health, so this is a flawed safety net.

In my professional experience, I have witnessed or heard of mental health issues leading to divorce, or that it played some part of the marriage’s break down, as well as being caused by the stress of a dissolution. In New Jersey last year, the courts handled 30,000 divorces. Even if only a small portion of these matters were mental health-related, this is a serious problem, which must be addressed.

What if Collaborative Law had been widely known six years ago and opted for by my parents? What if early in the collaborative process, one of the collaborative team’s mental health professionals (MHP), had detected a clinical issue with Mom and referred her out for a neurological examination? Once she was clinically diagnosed, she could have received the necessary medications, and then, perhaps, their 44-year marriage could have saved.

Although the protocols for the early involvement of mental health professionals in the collaborative process are still uncertain, one benefit of the collaborative process is that now attorneys are working closely with mental health professionals and learning from them. By comparison, in a traditional litigation, the relationship between the attorney and the MHP is very different. In this scenario, the MHP is employed by one party, or appointed by the Court, to conduct an evaluation, issue a report, and then defend their positions to the Court and the attorneys. To say the least, this is not the best way in which to employ the MHP’s time and expertise: nor the attorneys’ or the judge’s. What benefit is there in this traditional process to the couple or their children?

Many collaborative law groups, including mine, the Central Jersey Collaborative Law Group, are inter-disciplinarian. Meaning, our fellow collaborative law colleague is just as likely to be a MHP as an attorney or financial professional. Working together, and combining our talents and experience, we are able to evaluate the needs of each divorcing couple and their childen, if the need arises, so that all the issues may be addressed and solved, rather than just the economic needs, which is the principal focus of the courts.

There is a happy ending to Mom and Pop’s story. After Mom was diagnosed, she eventually agreed to move to the Sunrise Assisted Living Facility in Basking Ridge, New Jersey, where she could be medicated properly and monitored. Her last five years were good ones despite the advance of the disease. She and Pop started to date and fell in love again. For their grandchildren, and us children this was a wonderful end to their relationship, and admittedly, unusual. Pop was with Mom every day when she started her rapid decline in July. Her last audible words him the day before she passed was “thank you.”

Thanks for reading.


Kevin Kilcommons